Oppressed with sin and woe, A burdened heart I bear, Opposed by many a mighty foe; But I will not despair.

With this polluted heart, I dare to come to Thee, Holy and mighty as Thou art, For Thou wilt pardon me.

I feel that I am weak, And prone to every sin; But Thou who giv'st to those who seek, Wilt give me strength within.

Far as this earth may be From yonder starry skies; Remoter still am I from Thee: Yet Thou wilt not despise.

I need not fear my foes, I deed not yield to care; I need not sink beneath my woes, For Thou wilt answer prayer.

In my Redeemer's name, I give myself to Thee; And, all unworthy as I am, My God will cherish me.

- Anne Bronte

Life is full of choices. We are faced with decisions all the time and it’s never easy. I myself have been feeling at a crossroads lately as I am facing a choice that can change my life drastically based on the direction I choose to go. I am scared of what’s ahead and don't know what to expect. At the end of the day, choices must be made. My fear doesn’t help me in the slightest. At a crossroads, we can either feel paralyzed with fear or inspired about the possibilities, and I hope to achieve the latter. What I need to remember is that crossroads are about change, and I need to learn how to thrive in those times instead of letting my fear paralyze me.

" I want to change this, I want to get through life’s crossroads, to make it a profound moment of growth and self-learning."

It’s difficult to get to that point, I’m not saying otherwise. As we all go through life and face making choices on a daily basis, I know I’m not the only one going through this. I want to change this, I want to get through life’s crossroads, to make it a profound moment of growth and self-learning. So, I want to suggest and present some tips that I’ve received along the way. I want all of you also struggling with this issue to try them with me. Hopefully, they will prove useful and effective. Let’s jump right into the first one.

Don’t rush the process. We live in a world of immediate response and instant satisfaction, everything is quick and instant. However, unlike all of this, our decision making should be a process of much thought and debate. We shouldn’t pressure ourselves to make crossroad choices immediately. We shouldn’t rush through the process. While you gather advice and information, put off a decision for as long as you can. Dream bigger. Don’t settle for normal. When we choose the ordinary, we can expect the normal, unremarkable. We should dream bigger, change what we expect from life and develop the right environment for our growth and success.

"We all know deep within ourselves what we want and need to do. We need to learn to trust our instincts and wisdom."
Facing Life's Crossroads

Trust your gut. We all know deep within ourselves what we want and need to do. We need to learn to trust our instincts and wisdom. When we don’t act on what we feel is true and right, we lose power and energy. We will feel tired and like our emotions are all over the place. We need to trust our inner judgment, because after all, who knows us better than ourselves? Don't try to force things to happen. Attempt to control or manipulate things into happening is a typical response of the fear that comes with change. We don’t understand that by panicking about making a choice we actually make a decision to not take action. We should move with the change and not against it.

Maybe most important is - don’t obsess over the possibility that you’ll fail. Failure is a part of life. When we do face crossroads with fear and overthinking about failure, the possibility we would consider doing it again decreases dramatically. We have to remind ourselves that failure is a part of life, that it’s just another way to start over better and wiser. So, here are all the tips I have collected along the way that might help. We need to learn to take risks, to take a stand, to dare, in order to see that things are not as scary and threatening as they seem to be. Like I mentioned before, crossroad choices in life are never easy. Hopefully, these pieces of advice are going to help you and I navigate these decisions better. I wish you nothing but luck on your journey.

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