We’ve all been there, crazy over someone who is of course totally unavailable and off limits. Whether they are already married, in a serious relationship, or just got out of one, you just can’t help but dream of the two of you living happily ever after.
You’ll be pleased to hear that you’re not alone, and there might even be a reason for it, because it’s not merely a coincidence that it keeps on happening to you. Some people, according to experts, simply have an unconscious desire to play around at the thought of love, while protecting themselves from being vulnerable and really in love.
If you are always chasing people that you know will never actually be able to be with you, then perhaps you are really just afraid of falling in love and experiencing the potential hurt that comes with it. Wanting someone with someone off limits allows for the same thrill of love, however it lacks the actual intimacy.
Another reason for you always wanting people who you can’t have might have to do with survival of the fittest. If someone is emotionally available, it may, in your mind, led you to believe that they are of a higher status.
But then again, perhaps we all do it here and there, and maybe it’s just a part of human nature to always want what we can’t have. There’s nothing wrong with it, but if it’s constantly the situation, you might want to try to better understand what’s really going on.