Can People Really Change?
July 15, 2020
Alexandra Wade

When I was in middle school, I had a close friend. We weren’t extremely close, but we had mutual friends and hung out in the same circles. At the beginning of sophomore year, however, our friendship status changed. Some of our friends transferred to other schools, resulting in the tightening of our relationship. We became closer than we ever were and hung out together frequently. She helped me with cooking, we laughed a lot and talked about everything. We had a great friendship and I believed it was for the long haul. As I later found out, I was in for a rude awakening.

As time went by, she did things that a friend shouldn’t do. It all started when she sent out a video I asked her to delete. I grew further and further away from her and avoided her. Here’s another thing you should probably know about me – I hate confrontation. I do everything in my power to avoid it. I don’t know why, after all, I strongly believe in communicating your feelings. I guess it has something to do with my fear of being disliked, which is irrational at times, but I can’t control it. Now that we have established this, let’s circle back to the story.

Eventually, she started to catch on to my behavior and confronted me about it. After talking it all out, we made amends, but I still couldn’t return to our old ways. When I talked to other people about the situation, they would tell me that I should remove her from my life. But it is easier said than done. As much as she hurt me, I couldn’t do it. I felt bad (and, again, I feared the confrontation.) So, we remained friends, but we weren’t as close as we were before. After graduation, we still hung out in the same circles. I noticed that as long as we aren’t extremely close, we could actually get along. Unfortunately, even that changed eventually.

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