With how many people do you share an extraordinary connection? Unless you’re extremely lucky, probably not more than you can count on a single hand. When I was asked this exact question not so long ago, it got me thinking. What is it about a person that makes a connection more deep and profound? Is it an instant feeling? Or is it built with time?

Let me clarify what I mean. To me, an extraordinary connection is a kind that doesn’t require any words; the type of relationship in which you can talk about everything without fear of being judged or criticized; the type of relationship in which you can let your guards down.

When I asked a few of my friends this question, their answers were different. One told me that she has that type of connection with about three people. She pointed out her grandfather. According to her, she doesn’t have to say a word to him, as he understands everything just looking into her eyes. On the other hand, another friend of mine said she shares this sort of connection with more than eight people in her life. In her opinion, this connection can only exist with family members or people you know for many many years.

What I took from what my friends said, and what I think myself, is that these types of connections require trust. Without trust, we have nothing. Unlike what my friend said, I don’t think time is a factor in this equation. I, for example, have friends I know for years, but can’t bring myself to trust. Trust is a serious barrier, and when there is a lack of it, it’s difficult for us to open up to them and bare ourselves.

I want you all to think about your relationships. How many relationships can you say are extraordinary? How many people do you trust and love unconditionally?