For many of us, I imagine, it’s important that our parents approve of our partners. These are the people that raised us; that made us who we are. I love the fact that my parents get along and like my current partner, but God knows it wasn’t always the case.
Some parents, like mine, wouldn’t shy away from expressing their honest opinion. However, sometimes, you might just notice them being distant or awkward, even if they say they are okay with it. It is a very difficult when your parents don’t approve of your partner. It can often feel as if you have to choose between your family and your partner, which is an awful position to be put in.
I remember this relationship I had back in high-school. When I was in the eleventh grade, I started dating a freshman at college. I was head over hills for him and I thought my family would love him. Unfortunately, that wasn’t the case.
At first, I thought it was the age gap that my parents didn’t approve on. I was angry with my parents and this situation put a strain on our relationship. However, when I asked them directly why they dislike him, they told me his age wasn’t the issue.
So, I took a step back and tried to take an objective look at the situation. What I discovered is that my parents had every reason to disapprove as this guy was treating me terribly. I was so blinded by my love to him that I failed to see how he was treating me and my family.
It is extremely difficult to discover your parents disapprove your partner. Sometimes, unlike my situation, there isn’t a good reason why your family dislikes your partner. In other times, it may be your partner badmouthing your family. In these situations, hold your boundaries. Make sure that you assess the situation carefully and correctly, and dint be afraid to ask for help. Because at the end of your day, this is your deci to make.