If you are in a relationship or want to get into one, you know how important communication is. Open and honest communication acts as building bricks to a healthy relationship. If you don’t have open communication in a relationship chances are you are going to have many disagreements. The best way to avoid this is by ensuring that you can always talk to your partner. With that said, you may be wondering if you really need to speak about everything that happens. The truth is, there really isn’t one specific answer to this question. There is a lot that goes into it.

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Let’s try to answer the question before breaking it down. Yes, you should speak about everything and no you shouldn’t. See, we said there isn’t really a specific answer to this question. Firstly, yes, you should definitely speak about everything. Anything that has to do with your relationship should be spoken about. The last thing you want is for there to be a moment of misunderstanding which can, in turn, lead to an argument that could have been avoided. It is also essential to talk about feelings that may influence anything to do with your relationship. Allowing negative feelings to linger is not okay.

So why did we say no earlier? Well, you see every relationship needs boundaries. Yes, your relationship shouldn’t have secrets, but boundaries aren’t secrets. They are things that allow you to still keep parts of yourself. If you’re not careful, it’s very easy to lose yourself in a relationship which is not what you want. Instead, you want to feel like yourself and if something isn’t as important to your relationship, then you may not have to speak about it. However, no one can tell you what boundaries to set, as this is totally up to you and your partner.