How To Not Offend An Old Friend?
August 31, 2019
Jade Kerr

As you may already know, I am getting married again soon. My partner and I are now working on putting the¬†guest list together. I have expressed my opinion to keep my wedding small and classy, just family and very close friends. During the process, I stumbled across a dilemma. See, I’m hesitant about whether or not I should invite one of my oldest friends. Here’s the full story.

This old friend of mine is truly great. He is very fun to be around and my family loves him. However, after a couple of drinks, he becomes very loud and even offensive at times. He also starts spilling all my deepest secrets and revealing very private and personal details I expected him to keep private.

It is really frustrating because I do love him. However, his drunk version is completely intolerable. I want my wedding to be an amazing event. That when I’ll look back at it, I’ll only see good and happy memories. Unfourtently, I am afraid that this friend will make it all impossible.

This is a huge conflict and it is causing me a lot of stress. On the one hand, I do want to share this special moment with him, but on the other hand, as mentioned before, his behavior is standing in the way.

I hope I will be able to figure it out. I’m afraid to make a decision I’ll regret. Again, I truly love him and don’t want to hurt his feelings. However, I don’t know if I can trust him to behave. Should I “forget” to invite my friend? Should I have an open talk with him and explain my concerns and wishes? I truly hope I can find a way to solve this conflict and still keep my friend, at least his non-drunk version.

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