There is a lot I didn’t know about love in the past, and there is so much more I still have to learn. Recently, I have come to a realization I would like to share with you. When entering into a relationship, you should be happy on your own. The kind of happiness and bliss that won’t disappear with a heartbreak; that won’t disappear when someone lets me go or down.

I used to be the exact opposite. I used to depend on others to light me, to make me happy. When I was alone and single, I was turned off. I didn’t see the world in colors and couldn’t feel joy. I needed someone to define me and tell me who I am and how to feel.

That should never be the case. Your world shouldn’t fall apart for losing someone you love. Yes, it’s painful, but the world keeps on spinning. At the end of the day, they are not the center of my universe; they are not what I live for. Yes, romance is a big part of one’s life. However, it’s important to remember that while it may be sad now, you and it will be okay eventually.

You, along with your partner, can make beautiful things. Together, you can lift each other; together you can complete and support each other. However, despite all that, I will know that I can still be a burning flame all on my own, that I can burn bright just by myself, even if I don’t have you.