I recently started dating a close friend of mine. We got back in touch not too long ago and very soon discovered we both wanted more than a friendship. After a rough start, we finally found our way back to each other. We are currently navigating this relationship, trying to find our feet. Unfourtenetly, we are already facing some difficulties.
The problem we are facing is that my boyfriend and I lack intimacy. I crave his affection, but often fail to achieve it. Don’t get me wrong. I love my boyfriend. When we fight, for example, it only shows me just how much he is the right man for me. It’s not about physicality either; I am attracted to him and know that he is attracted to me. So, why do we fail to show it to each other?
Is it because we were such good friends before we started dating? Are we too familiar with each other? Is it more awkward for us because of that? I was certain that the fact we were great friends in the past would help us, not harm us. I know that he has an interest in me as a romantic partner, he declared that many times. But still, I can’t help but think if he still sees me as just his good friend.
Now, I find myself trying too hard to get his affection and that is not how it should be in a relationship. We have the base of an amazing relationship as we have such an amazing friendship. However, we still lack intimacy, which is a key factor in any relationship.
I love my boyfriend, and I don’t want to lose this amazing thing we have. What I do want, for that to happen, is that he would show me some more affection; that we will establish intimacy. I know that even if I will do everything I can on my side, it won’t necessarily be enough. I need to talk with him on this matter openly so that we can work it out.