Letting Go Of What Can’t Be Controlled
March 23, 2022
Jade Kerr

Do you find yourself trying to keep your fingers on everything but just end up being angry and frustrated when it doesn’t work out? Well, you aren’t alone. There are hundreds if not thousands of people that experience this on a daily basis. Now that you know you aren’t alone, you should also know that it’s not your fault. Wanting to make sure everything works out is totally normal. In fact, it’s a part of human nature.

 

But there is some good news. There are exercises that you can do that will help you let go of things that you can’t control. Yes, you may have tried to change your environment to help lessen the chances of something unexpected happening, but you can’t run forever. So maybe it’s time to change your thinking. The first step would be to find out what triggers your need to control what happens. Try writing your triggers down. Having them in front of you can be a great help. Once you have your triggers written down, you can then work on controlling your urge. A simple method would be to breathe and count. The next step would be to take note of your feelings and emotions.

 

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This is considered to be an emotional dump. During this time, you can identify what emotions you feel during an episode. Once you start to feel your emotions make sure to write them down. Much like with your triggers it would help to be able to see what emotions you feel. Lastly and this might seem a bit far-fetched but learn to understand that some things are just out of your control. Yes, it doesn’t seem as easy as that, but it takes time and there’s really isn’t any rush. All you can do is take it one day at a time. You can try to distract yourself by going for walks and even journaling.

 

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