Lying is a part of life. Although we hate to admit it, most of us have told a lie (or a few) to our partners throughout the relationship. However, lies can be separated into multiple sub-groups. While some can be harmless, others may be harming and damaging. So, once we do lie, and no matter the severity of it, how can we admit it to our partners?
As I’ve mentioned, there are different types of lies. First, we will review the small lies. In this case, like almost everything, timing is everything. Catch them at a suitable time, when they aren’t overly stressed or anxious. Once you do confess it, it is also important to watch how you deliver the news. Don’t rush it, think in advance of what you are going to say. Also, and maybe most importantly, actually apologize for what you did; say it and mean it.
And now, to the harsher part – the big lies. Before we go into this, there is something I would like to confess. I’ve shared here in the past that I cheated on one of my exes in the past. I have a long history with the issue, as I’ve been cheated on multiple times in the past. It was a slip in judgment, and for a short while, I denied it. Unfourtenetly, the following tips weren’t available to me at the time, and the thing exploded. So, here is what you can do.
First, don’t minimize the matter. Characterize it as the big deal that it is, and be prepared for an intense reaction from your partner. Second, don’t look for others to blame. This is your fault; there is no justifying it, no deflecting blame. Third, contemplate the possible outcomes, think them through, and have a plan for each possible outcome. Lastly, it is always important to remember that things are likely to get better now. Confessing a lie is sure to make us feel freer, and bring as closer to our partner. You know what they say – honesty created intimacy.
So, if you have a lie that is sitting on you and aches your chest, I hope this might help you with it. To have a healthy and good relationship, you must be honest with your partner. Relationships are built around trust, so without it, they are sure to come crashing down.