Lose You To Love Me
October 23, 2019
Alexandra Wade

Today at midnight, Selena Gomez made her highly anticipated return with the release of her new single, Lose You To Love Me. When I heard the song for the first time, I didn’t expect it to affect me the way that it did. The song managed to capture and explore a subject that is very close to my heart – self-love.

Self-love is a subject I had struggled with for years on end. While I preach this message to others and tell then how it changed my life, my road to get there wasn’t simple. As I shared with you not too long ago, I recently took a little break from the dating scene. The decision came after a lot of bad relationships, and it paid off big time.

While I have yet to find my Mr. Right, I ended up discovering something even better – myself. This time away from searching allowed me to dig deeper into myself and discover aspects of myself I had never noticed before. However, maybe most importantly, It helped me find love for myself.

In the song, Gomez is touching on this exact issue. In the pre-chorus, Gomez sings: “I needed to lose you to find me,” and in the chorus carries on by saying: “I needed to lose you to love me.”

Gomez addressing this subject is such an important thing. Sometimes, we have to let go of something that we are holding onto for no apparent reason – just because it’s what we know – to find ourselves. I know that my fellow writers and I write it all the time, but we have to love ourselves to love and be loved by others. It sounds cheesy and like jibber-jabber, I know, but trust me, it isn’t. Once we love ourselves, we know what we want and what we deserve, what can save us from disastrous relationships.

Before I decided to take a break from searching, I was in a very toxic relationship. Now, after some time has passed, I am finally able to find a new perspective. It took me some time, but I managed to find love for myself, and thanks to that I can say I came out the other side stronger and better.

In the outro, Gomez sang: “And now the chapter is closed and done/ And now it’s goodbye, it’s goodbye for us.” Honestly, I couldn’t agree more.

This may be the end of us, but only the start of the new me.

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