Even if you lie because you think it’s for your partner’s own good, it’s not ok. Even if you lie because you think it’s better than going through the complex truth, or will be the only thing that can save your relationship,  it’s not ok.

Not in any way, shape, or form, no matter how hard you try to justify it.

Whatever the reason for lying may be, it will never go appreciated and it will never be seen in a positive light. Lying is not attractive. Telling the truth will always be more appreciated at the end of the day, even if it hurts to hear at first, and even if it will open up a whole jar of other issues that you’re afraid to get to.

You may think that lying is something small and mundane that doesn’t mean much, but it could ruin everything you’ve built with your partner.  You could lose their trust forever.  Lying is the most unattractive thing possible, and your partner will never look at you in the same way, regardless of how much they love you.

What’s attractive is maturity and the confidence to look your partner in the eye and be real with them, whatever the cost may be. Lying will not save your relationship, so get that idea out of head fast.

And if neither of you is ready to face the truth, then there’s a problem there already that lying won’t fix.