Every relationship that we have, no matter its nature, must have a foundation. It must be built on a set of principles and values – that both sides have to accept. If you ask anyone, I’m sure they’ll tell you that one of the most important and fundamental parts and foundation stones in a relationship is trust. Relationships rise and fall on trust. If you cannot trust the person closest to you – you absolutely cannot form a relationship with them. Unfourtenetly for me, I have experienced and was a part of a relationship that had no trust. As I have opened up about many times in the past, I have been a part of multiple toxic relationships. These relationships took a major toll on me, and it took me a long time to bounce back and recover from them. In one of these relationships, my partner cheated on me, and yet, I stayed. I went on in a relationship with no trust in my partner, and it didn’t turn out that well.
When I found out he was cheating on me, I was devastated. If he had come forward with the truth, that would have been one thing, but to find it out through a text on his phone was even worse. I felt so betrayed, but because of my twisted outlook at the time and the toxic nature of this relationship, I decided to give him another chance. He made me believe that I’ll never find anyone that would love me better than him and that he was willing to change. Despite having no trust in him, I stayed because I thought that we could build it again and that I could fix him. Having no trust in my partner drove me crazy. I couldn’t get out of my own mind and was paranoid all the time. It was exhausting as it was painful, and finally, after a couple of months, I couldn’t take it anymore. At that point, it was clear to me that he would never change and that I was wasting my time on him. Trust is a two-way street, and when someone breaks it – it’s difficult to rebuild it.