In life, relationships come and go. They come in different shapes and forms – romantic relationships, friendly relationships, family relationships, etc. Every relationship, without any exception, requires hard work. Loyalty, dedication, availability, and communication are just the tip of the iceberg of what it takes out of you to maintain a loving and healthy relationship – and make it last. However, for a relationship to work, the effort must come from both sides. If only one side in the relationship puts in all the effort, is giving, and is doing all the work, while the other side is only getting and gives nothing in return – well, that’s not a healthy and functional relationship. Unfourtenetly, we can’t always tell people’s intentions and find ourselves in a toxic relationship. You may already know that I don’t have the best record when it comes to my romantic relationships, as I have found myself in quite a few toxic ones. Sadly, I didn’t handle it well.
When I was in those relationships, I wanted to fight for them. I wanted to give and invest everything I had to preserve these relationships. I couldn’t see how wrong I was. See, these relationships were just as I described them earlier – toxic. Being stuck in one of them isn’t pleasant, and is even damaging. The effects and scars it leaves behind it when it ends are devastating and can stay with you for far too long. I battled with low self-esteem and trust issues for years because of such relationships, and these issues were extremely difficult to shake off me. It’s been a long time coming, but I have finally come to the following conclusion – it is worth fighting for every relationship you have throughout your life. Not all relationships are worth saving. If you find yourself in a relationship that is bad for you, that is hurting and damaging you – you shouldn’t stay. It is best to let the toxic relationships go and invest in the ones that are making you happy. Life’s too short.