In a lot of my relationships, I find myself saying yes often. Recently, I started seeing a new guy. This came after a few months in which I took a break from the dating scene. Yesterday, we had our first fight. I decided to share with you what had happened, as I feel like sharing will help me see things more clearly. So, here is what happened.
Like I had mentioned, I say ‘yes’ often in my relationship, and my new one was no different. I said ‘yes’ to my new boyfriends on many occasions during the period of time we spent together, starting from when I said yes to dating him.
However, yesterday, maybe for the first time, I said no. It wasn’t even such a major thing. To be honest, I still can’t believe it actually happened. I should be allowed to express my opinion; I should be allowed to say no – even if it isn’t what he wants to hear.
I am a free person, that should and is more than capable of making decisions on their own. I know some of you may think I am making a mountain out of a molehill, but this is an alarming behavior. It shows that the man in question is controlling, childish, cannot take no as an answer.
Thankfully, I caught this dangerous behavior before I got too attached to him. As you can probably understand, I broke things off with him. No one can control what I want to say or do – it is no one’s choice but my own.