On Being Ghosted
March 10, 2019
Ariella Jacobs

Most of us have been ghosted at least once in our lifetime. And well if you haven’t yet? Then lucky you, and hopefully it stays that way, because ghosting is truly one of the most horrible and hurtful things to experience.

It’s when you’re dating someone, and everything seems to be going well, and then all a sudden, out of nowhere, they just decide to disappear, without any explanation, no apology, nothing. It’s as though in the blink of an eye, you never knew each other, and never had any kind of connection.

People ghost for all kinds of reasons, but the more time spent with someone, the more it burns. One or two dates, alright fine. But after seeing someone for a significant period of time and then ghosting – yikes.

If you’ve been ghosted, you’re really best off doing absolutely nothing in all honesty. Of course a million billion thoughts and emotions will be going on in your head if someone just stops answering you – but take a deep breathe, and wait it out. Maybe you’ve jumped to conclusions too quickly. It never hurts to give someone the benefit of the doubt, at least for a short amount of time.

Try to stay calm, and to not panic. It’s surely no good feeling to be ignored, but they will respond to you at some point, and if they don’t, well then they will be a greater loss than you in the long run, and you can’t give them what they want.  Generally, those that ghost are looking to drive you crazy. Don’t allow them to get that power.

Don’t delete them off of your social media accounts, it won’t do any good. Move on with your life, as hard as it may be, and try to keep in mind that perhaps they were not who you thought they were. Although things may feel out of control, you have all the power in  your hands. Carry on living your life – it’s the best possible revenge for that insensitive ghoster.

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