Perhaps it sounds kind of childish to be complaining about sending the first text. But it’s not just that. There’s a lot more to it – the first text is only the start of a whole circle.

Sending the first text also means that you will be the one who is always first to reach out, to check it, to make plans, to make sure the conversations continue to follow, and basically are the one who is putting in all the effort. And it’s straight up annoying and unfair. 

It’s not a good feeling to be the only one making the effort, feeling like you care more about them, then they do about you. It can make you feel unappreciated, which hurts even more after all the effort you’ve been putting in. It’s like constantly giving, and never getting anything back.  

It feels like they don’t think about you unless you are sending them a message or are right in front of their face – making it seem as though they don’t really need you. When we are always the one sending the first text, it can hurt our ego and really touch on our insecurities. If they really cared about us, wouldn’t they want to show it? 

Now that you think about it, probably without you always sending the first text, your relationship would no longer exist, and you would go days, weeks, maybe even months without speaking. Should you continue making an effort, or just let the relationship play its course? Even if it means letting it fade away. That’s the question we’re always asking ourselves when we’re always the one to send the first text.