It is sad when a relationship comes to an end. No matter the reason that led to the separation, it is bound to leave you in a shaky state. We put so much effort into a relationship – we put in all of us – so watching it crash is a draining experience. So, when we find ourselves in that unfortunate situation, it is important to give ourselves all the time we need.

While we know that relationships come and go, as it’s the way of life, it doesn’t make it any easier. We put so much into each relationship we have. We lose parts of ourselves in them, get used to going on with our lives as a part of a duo. Leaving all of that behind us requires a lot of adjustments.

It’s not easy going back to being single. There is a sudden hole in your life that was once filled but now isn’t. Now, there is no one to turn to, no one to depend on. The one person you wish to tell all about your day is gone now. Going back to being single means depending on ourselves alone, which is never an easy thing to achieve.

On top of all that, we are also grieving the end of a relationship. And this is where I believe it all relays on. We have to allow ourselves to mourn the end of our relationship. We have to give ourselves time. We mustn’t rush ourselves into going back to dating or getting over our ex. By rushing the process we are assuring that our next relationship would fail, because how can we love someone new if we are still not over someone else?

We have to give ourselves time. It may take days, or weeks, or months, but if that’s what we need then it’s worth it. Give yourself time to process what had happened, to adjust to your new reality. Give yourself time to absorb everything you’ve learned from this relationship that has come to an end. These lessons will stay with you forever.

Don’t try to rush yourself, let the time heal your wounds. However long it may take.