Just because you were hurt in the past, it does not mean that all women are crazy, or all men are assholes. This kind of simplified thinking and generalizations makes dating experiences run the risk of making these false beliefs come true.
If you expect these things, then that’s exactly what will come your way. Treat every person as their own individual person. Don’t bury them in your subconscious beliefs, it’s not fair, and in the end you’re only hurting yourself.
We also commonly believe that great love is not something that we can just hope for. We live in a pretty bitter society, and it’s so easy to get caught up in these thoughts. But there’s a middle ground between what we see in the movies and being able to recognize love for what it is. Great love is not possible without first believing that it is.
It has also became popular to put dating down, to say that it sucks, and to make jobs that put yourself down. While you may have gone through some tough dates, expecting them to be terrible is only causing more of them. A negative attitude has a seriously toxic effect. Try enjoying yourself, and making the most of each date.
As human beings, we don’t actually know what we want and don’t want. We often though create a checklist of what our perfect partner will have. Skip the checklists, and allow yourself to be surprised by what comes your way. You might learn a whole lot about yourself that you never knew before.
believed I was inadequate because of being single, all I saw was my inadequacy. When I let that belief go, all I saw was how the belief was dictating my romantic life.
Another common belief that pushes us away from finding love is simply believing that we don’t deserve it. Each and every person deserves love, especially you. So get that out of your head now.