The Problem With Rejection
February 19, 2021
Jade Kerr

I have written about my problematic romantic history many times in the past. If by chance, you read one of these entries, you’d probably know that I have dealt with a lot of rejection in this field. Many men rejected me for various reasons, and every time it happened was extremely painful. Now, looking back and re-visiting what had happened then, I know that I didn’t handle the situation well. At the time that all these rejections hit me, I never took the time to pay attention and process any of them. As I also mentioned before, that kept me in a never-ending loop of toxic relationships, many of which left me feeling rejected and hurt. It took a toll on me, both physically and mentally. Now, looking even further into it, I see another perspective to it all. It wasn’t that I didn’t pay attention to any of it and everything went over my head, but that all the rejection I received has prevented me from moving on.

via Pexels

I took that rejection to heart and let it affect me in every way possible. It affected my self-esteem, my confidence, my trust, and so much more. The problem with rejection, when not dealt with well, is that it breaks you. I was stuck in place, unable to move forward. I let it bring me down. Instead, I should have faced it head-on. I should have grown from the rejection, grow a thicker skin, and learn valuable lessons for the future. I should have grown stronger from it, should have gotten back up, and prepared myself to move on. I let the rejection leave me frozen and in a lot of pain. I let it get to me and affect the qualities that should have protected me and prevent me from crashing the way that I did. When faced with rejection, we should look back at exactly what had happened, learn the lessons we need to get back up stronger and wiser, and move on.

You may also like