I am a big supporter of expressing our feelings; of releasing it for the whole world to see. It wasn’t too long ago when I wrote to you how important I believe crying is for us, for the soul. However, there is something that I feel is important to note. While finding a shoulder to cry on is important, it is crucial to make sure it’s the right one.
Opening our hearts to someone should never be taken for granted. It is hard bringing ourselves to a state of vulnerability, to be open and front about how we feel. Although the ability to show our feelings is a strength, many view it as a weakness. That is the first thing you must search for in a friend – the ability to express your feelings without fear of judgment or shame.
Another thing you should search for in a friend is trust. You should have trust in the person on which shoulder you cry. Trust that they will know how to lift you; trust that they will know how to make you feel better; trust that they won’t take advantage of you at your low point; trust that they will be there for you.
When you feel you have finally found the right person for the mission, you must let yourself be open and transparent – allow yourself to feel. Make sure that you are truly in a supportive and accepting with that friend; a relationship in you don’t have to excuse or feel ashamed of your feelings.
Again, exposing and expressing your feelings is a serious matter, I know. However, it will pay off big time.