There are some dating app questions that I really hate. Like, what are you looking for? What a totally loaded question. I don’t know, man, I don’t even know you. What I’m really looking for is a spark and some excitement.  Maybe the future father of my children, or maybe just some dinner and drinks? I don’t know!

How can I really know what I’m getting by swiping through an app? There are so many different styles of swiping. For one, there’s when we’re bored and were totally not engaged in the process, just mindlessly swiping. The next is when we get super overwhelmed by the app and ditch the idea overall.  And the third is the swiper that just swipes to increase their ego.

First of all, you need to set your goal. Think of dating apps like your workout routine.  Even if your goal is not a relationship, you can also set your goal to put yourself out there and meet new people. Maybe it’s to find a wedding date, and that’s totally fine.

It’s also useful to set your limits, just like everything in life, that is best in moderation. There’s no reason to spend every second swiping through profiles because you WILL get burnt out.  Instead of just swiping when you’re bored, set timeframes and limits around it. Dating apps do work, it’s just a matter of knowing how much to invest, and how much not to invest.

My last piece of advice to you is to cut out all the unnecessary stuff.  If no plans have been made a week or so after chatting, just delete the match. It’s not worth your energy and time for someone that’s not really making the effort. They are probably talking to a whole lot of other people.  

So if you’re feeling done with swiping, then maybe you’ve been using them wrong.