It’s commonly said that it takes half of the time that you were with someone in order to fully get over them and move on.  So that means that if you were in a relationship for a year, you’ve got six months to heal. Mark the date on your calendar, and prepare yourself for a bumpy ride ahead.

Eventually, the journey will end, and it will end in you not caring about this person anymore, believe it or not. You will eventually, in the time period let them go and manage to move on.  So you count down the days until the pain will stop, until you will stop obsessing. But somehow, when that day finally comes, you still feel the same way, and can’t get your mind off of them.

You don’t feel any better, and you don’t feel free even in the last bit. It still hurts, and you still miss them like crazy. You run back to your calendar and double check your math, only to see that you of course calculated perfectly.

That’s because when it comes to moving on, there is no recipe that works for everyone. There’s no magical way to just wake up one day and stop feeling what you do. If you haven’t yet moved on, it’s simply because you are not ready, and no matter what you do, no matter how many times you google how to do it, or practice yoga, it won’t happen.

And that’s really okay. It’s okay to be sad and to not be over it, because one day, whenever that may be, you will be. Maybe it will even be tomorrow. Let life takes its course and don’t force anything upon yourself. You will be ready when you’re ready. It’s as simple as that.