Breakups are the worst. We are losing someone important to us, someone who was a source of comfort and stability to us. This was the person we used to talk to when something happened, whether good or upsetting. So, when this communication stops immediately all of a sudden, it can be painful and confusing. Although we may want to put the phone down and just move on, it’s is easier said than done. I’ve been there multiple times, and I can assure you that continuing to text your ex is painful and holds you back from moving on.
When you feel like texting your ex, distract yourself. When you suddenly feel the urge to text your former partner, keep yourself occupied by doing something you won’t regret later on. Create a healthy distraction by discovering a new hobby or going back to an old one. You can read a book, watch a series, knit, work out, etc. I would recommend working out the most, as I feel that during a workout our minds are focused, and we have no time to think about anything else. For me, an intense work out always workes out.
When you feel like texting your ex, reach out to your friends. Often, when we are in a relationship, we grow a little distant from our friends. Now, that you are single again, reconnect with your friends. It is in times like this that we need our friends around; that we need a strong support network. When we’re alone, it’s easy to fall back to the nostalgia of your relationships. However, having friends around to remind you that you deserve better and support you, helps you die down the need to text your ex.