Breakups are the worst. We are losing someone important to us, someone who was a source of comfort and stability to us. This was the person we used to talk to when something happened, whether good or upsetting. So, when this communication stops immediately all of a sudden, it can be painful and confusing. Although we may want to put the phone down and just move on, it’s is easier said than done. I’ve been there multiple times, and I can assure you that continuing to text your ex is painful and holds you back from moving on.

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When you feel like texting your ex, distract yourself. When you suddenly feel the urge to text your former partner, keep yourself occupied by doing something you won’t regret later on. Create a healthy distraction by discovering a new hobby or going back to an old one. You can read a book, watch a series, knit, work out, etc. I would recommend working out the most, as I feel that during a workout our minds are focused, and we have no time to think about anything else. For me, an intense work out always workes out.

When you feel like texting your ex, reach out to your friends. Often, when we are in a relationship, we grow a little distant from our friends. Now, that you are single again, reconnect with your friends. It is in times like this that we need our friends around; that we need a strong support network. When we’re alone, it’s easy to fall back to the nostalgia of your relationships. However, having friends around to remind you that you deserve better and support you, helps you die down the need to text your ex.

When you feel like texting your ex, remind yourself why your relationship ended. There is a reason for every breakup, and sometimes, it all too easy to forget it. We can get so caught up in the loneliness and the yearning for what used to be that you forget what brought you there. So, when you feel like doing the deed, remind yourself of the reasons that caused the split.

When you feel like texting your ex, just give it time. Getting over a breakup is a long process, it takes time. You used to text this person every day, and now that’s not your reality anymore. Time can work wonders on a broken heart as long as you’re not getting in your way. I hope these tips will help you put your phone aside and focus on the future instead of dwelling in the past.