Yesterday, my friend and colleague, Jade Kerr, shared a heartfelt story about a past relationship. In case you haven’t read it yet, Jade spoke on the cheating that led to the breakup. Jade described how it made her feel and discussed how no one should feel like the second choice. However, what caught my eye was something else.

Jade discussed how the whole situation led her to believe she isn’t good enough. This made me so sad. It is so upsetting how beautiful women such as Jade turn to “I don’t feel good enough.” Sadly, Jade isn’t the only one, as I know many more women it had happened to.

This is such a big risk, as it leads women to low self-esteem. As a result, women have a hard time loving themselves and will have trouble finding love. The way I see it is that you can’t love someone else if you can’t love yourself.

The truth is that all these beautiful women are worthy of love and are more than “good enough” to find it. So, what is the catch? In relationships and love, there is a lot of different factors that can affect it. Chemistry and matching personalities, for example, both of which have nothing to do with being “good enough.”

We all fantasize and desire that perfect match. After years of experience in the dating scene, I can vouch to how hard finding it is. We need to accept that relationships sometimes don’t work. We can’t expect to have a match with everyone. And when we do find ourselves after a breakup with someone that wasn’t right for us, we have to understand that we are not the ones to blame.

This relationship didn’t fail because you weren’t “good enough,” it failed because this person just wasn’t the right one for you. So, get up and carry on with the search.