In a relationship, each side chooses the other over and over again. The first choice – of the other person as a partner – is not enough. You have to choose them again throughout the different scenarios that life throws at us. Unfourtanetly, however, you don’t always fall in love with the right person. You may fall for someone unable to reciprocate everything that you have to give. They may seem amazing and perfect and exactly what you think you want, but you may not be the same to them.

You might not notice it straight away. How much you were willing to change, to sacrifice, to not be yourself, to be anything just so at the end of the day, you could have that person around. You choose this person time and time again, prove to them that they are your priority. All in the name of love. And I don’t refute that. It is love, at least from your perspective. Not thinking twice is love. Ignoring the signs and making excuses is love. Working hard to work things out is love, Choosing someone is love.

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However, your love isn’t always directed at the right place. Sometimes all these feeling and effort is invested in someone who never does the same for you. Sometimes you choose someone, and they don’t choose you back. Leaving a one-sided relationship can be hard when you are so invested and is so in love. It is hard to convince yourself that choosing yourself matters. That you shouldn’t feel guilty for wanting to be as prioritized. You don’t deserve to be put second by your partner. Know that by ending this kind of relationship, you are not giving up. Rather, you understand that things have to come to an end and that you deserve better.

This is your reminder that if you are In a place where you are not seen, not appreciated, not chosen, then letting go is something you should do, even if it breaks your heart, even if you thought you could fix it, fix them. Stop choosing someone who doesn’t choose you. Stop hurting yourself in this manner. Don’t give undeserving people a pace in your heart, and stop not knowing what you deserve. Your love is an amazing thing and is such a gift. You deserve to be seen, to be heard, to be celebrated, to be chosen.